Gossip Girl


Wonder what they are talking about?

So I have to admit that today…well most days…I gossip in some shape or fashion at work. Sometimes about customers, sometimes about co-workers, and well you get the picture. I am either the one telling the “juicy” details to someone else or hearing about something that “so-and-so” did… Not that I ever have time really to waste at work doing this…just that is has become a habit I have let myself get used to doing that I need to break. Let me give you an example…Just in the span of a few minutes, up in the front part of my office, I was not only told something in front of the person who my co-worker was talking about but witnessed some “whispering” going on between two of my other co-workers who were talking about the other co-worker sitting in front of them though at the time that co-worker was chatting with another co-worker (hope she didn’t hear them talking about her)… whew and that was just in the span of about 20 minutes or so.

And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. 1 Timothy 5:13

As the verse states and I believe that Paul got it right… that we learn to be idle, gossips, and busybodies these days…even me. I believe that even the 10 Commandments says “you shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” I know the actual definition of false witness is to lie but then does it mean that if you say something about someone that is true to someone else that it is okay? Best answer to that is another question, “Would Jesus gossip (say what you are saying) to someone else (even though what you are saying is true) about the person?” Jesus himself stated this in Matthew 15:11:

Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.

office-gossip-afYou see the two greatest commandments that Jesus talks with us about is to “love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31. So when I gossip basically behind someone’s back about them am I really loving that person? No, I am not loving that person at all. When I allow someone else to lean over and tell me the “juicy” details about someone else am I loving that person at that moment? No, I am not loving that person at all. So now that I have determined that I have a problem and that I want to fix it…what now?

These six things the Lord hates,
Yes, seven are an abomination to Him:
A proud look,
A lying tongue,
Hands that shed innocent blood,
A heart that devises wicked plans,
Feet that are swift in running to evil,
A false witness who speaks lies,
And one who sows discord among brethren. ~ Proverbs 6:16-19

A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends. Proverbs 16:28

I feel I need an action plan in case I find myself in the situations I described above again…and let’s face it I know I will be as soon as tomorrow. SO as friend’s young child stated so clearly…”stop talking about that person because it is not nice to talk about someone when they aren’t here.” The father then asked, “Even if it is good things?” … to which the child replied, “Nope not even then!” If the child could politely tell their parents to stop why can’t I tell co-workers that I just do not want to participate in gossip? Then it comes down to when I feel the urge to spill the “juicy” details to someone else…or even tell another story about someone else even if I am talking about nice things. Do I pinch myself? Do I pray? Do I put a quarter in a jar? Maybe I should memorize a verse that talks about gossiping such as Proverbs 16:28 and every time I feel the urge to recite it to myself quietly… I think that will do it and if I keep wanting to continue at that point I can send up a prayer.

Lord, I struggle with this bad habit every day. I know that this displeases you and is not how you would have me act. Please guide me in trying to get rid of this bad habit. Help me to stick to my plan of action. Help me to memorize the verse in Proverbs and to remember to recite it to myself anytime I feel the urge to gossip. I want to be an example of you to the world around me and I cannot be that when I continue this habit. Please continue to mold me into the person you know I am capable of being to show the people around me who I am in You. ~ Amen.


GODencounters conference

Younger Generation Church

Next year I want to go actually see this conference in person. It is a free event every year put on by the Arlington Seventh Day Adventist Church. Last year I downloaded the podcasts. Unfortunately I have not watched those yet… This year I am watching at least the three sermons given on Sabbath via online streaming. I already have been blessed by the messages given this morning by Sam McKee! I have to be honest with you. I act one way on Sabbath or in church but at work or in other areas I don’t always act like a follower of Jesus. If I want to reach others I need to always show I am a follower of Jesus in every situation! It is going to be my challenge that I am praying for to always show Jesus’ love even when I would rather argue with them for being not so nice or helpful to me at work… I want to always focus on the positive and give out help not pull others down. Sometimes God has to almost like knock me over the head while I am trying to do it my own way and keeps saying my child I know best just please listen and follow my lead. I think my problem is that I am so impulsive that I do the first thing I think of which to be honest is NEVER what I should do had I weighed the options of what I should have done. This as you can imagine gets me in deep water especially at work with co-workers…. I need to honestly think how would Jesus react in THIS circumstance? Before just reacting to situations I need to think and the react such as a follower of Jesus would instead of how I normally react. I need to let go of all the anger I carry around that makes me react badly. I want people to look at me and say what is different about her? So I can tell them about the love I know from God…and how He changed me! This is my prayer and anyone who wishes to pray for me in this would be welcomed to do so…

This Little LIGHT of Mine

let-it-shine-3-aspirers-camp-1024x723I have been reflecting back on where God has been so good to me this past 6 weeks… really quite visible ways that have showed me just HOW MUCH he cares about me. Before I had my surgery I was in full on PANIC MODE! I knew I needed to get the surgery done to escape full on cancer but what I didn’t have was any sick time or vacation time left at work…and a girl’s got to pay the rent (oh and other bills). I prayed about what to do… The next day the owner of my company called me into his office and told me that he appreciated all my hard work and he would pay me 40 hours a week while recovering at home. I was so SHOCKED to say the least (I later went and gave him a hug to say a big thank you)! I also had a week the third week where I only worked half days but he gave me another week with 40 hours pay. The 4th week was harder as I myself worked a full work week and I thought I was doing good until the weekend after I became very sick. 😦 I slept the whole weekend away trying desperately to get better. It didn’t help. I went to the Doc on Monday and ended up being so sick I missed the entire 5th week of work. I again was in a panic… rent is due the first of the month and I didn’t have enough money to pay it. I prayed. I tried to enjoy what I had of an extra long weekend due to Labor Day. Went in on Tuesday trying to figure how much I would have to come up with for rent when to my utter shock the owner AGAIN paid the difference of the hours that I didn’t have in sick time for missing a whole week of work!!! So along with receiving our commissions as well I have enough money to pay my rent. PRAISE THE LORD!!!

GROWTH MOMENT: So I have been reading this book by DeVon Franklin called Produced by Faith: Enjoy Real Success without Losing Your True Self. I find it SO inspiring and I am just on page 50… I am really savoring the book slowly and taking it all in. Well on Wednesday we have our usual customer service meeting at work… the owner announced a promotion of a co-worker to manager over customer service and some web stores. He also introduced that he will have a customer supervisor position as well that will report to the manger of customer service and help us out. We were to email him if we were interested in the position. Me and my normal (past behavior) would have impulsively just emailed the owner saying I was interested in the position. Did I actually go ahead and email the owner right away like I would have done in the past??? NO. The first thing I did when I got back to my desk was pray about it and ask God if this job opportunity was something in HIS WILL for me that I do. I prayed. I also pondered what it would mean if I got the position. I asked a close friend at work who would not be up for the promotion what they thought about it… What did I end up doing about the position you may ask? I never emailed the owner about it. I felt it wasn’t the right fit for the person God wants me to become nor was it really what I truly wanted. I honestly which is sad would never have thought to pray to God about a promotion at work or even if I should go for a new position. The book I am reading has opened my eyes to so much. God wants to direct our paths and decisions (Bible says so in Proverbs 3:5-6)! So from here on out I plan to consult God on any decisions I need to make. Praise the Lord that he listens and answers prayers. Not always in the way we want but He does. I can attest to that.


So the title of my blog also happens to be the title of one of my favorite songs. I grew up singing it in church and I always have loved it. There is a new version I found that is performed by Addison Road… here are the lyrics:

There’s a little flame inside us all
Some shine bright, some shine small
The rains will come and the waters rise
But don’t you ever lose your light
In this life you will know
Love and pain, joy and sorrow
So when it hurts, when times get hard
Don’t forget whose child you are

This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine
This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine, gonna let it shine

May you live each day with no regret
Make the most of every chance you get
Let your eyes get wide when you look at the stars
With the same sense of wonder as a child’s heart
With the ones you love treasure the time
And for those who are gone keep their memories alive
Hold on to your dreams don’t ever let go
There’s a fire inside you burning with hope

This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine
This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine, gonna let it shine

There will be days when you want to give up
When the clouds settle in
But after the rain comes the sun
Don’t you ever forget

One day there will be no more pain
And we will finally see Jesus’ face
So until then I’m gonna to try
To brave the dark and let my little light shine

This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine
This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine, gonna let it shine

There’s a little light inside us all…

Let us always remember who’s child we really are! Let us pray to the Father of us all! Let us share all the glorious things He has done for us as a testimony of His wonderful love for us! Let us show others so we will point them to the Lord, God Almighty!

Let your light shine to everyone around you! 😉